When a man or woman has divorced his/her companion and married another, he/she is in a state of adultery. This is also true of people who are in polygamous marriages. It is the devil’s design to entrap people in these situations to hold them back from ever being saved. When people get saved, they are to forsake their sin and live in holiness. These mixed-up marriages cause much confusion and heartache. There are some situations which seem impossible to undo, but there is a Saviour who can give wisdom and untangle these problems. The Holy Spirit will guide into all truth and will never lead contrary to the Word.
Often children are born into adulterous/polygamous marriages. These children are innocent before God and are not guilty of any wrong doing. When a man gives his heart to God and measures to the truth of God’s Word, he will be desirous of his marriage being in accordance with God’s plan. While sin is to be forsaken, this never means for a man not to provide for his children—even if born in an unscriptural union.
Paul said that, “If any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel” (1 Timothy 5:8). A father has a responsibility to see that his children, from whatever marriage, are not only cared for temporally but emotionally etc. They are paying the price of his sin, and it behooves the man to show himself godly in their care and nurture.
What a sad commentary for a man to come home and kick his ‘second wife’ and children destitute into the street, professing that he is now a man of God. He still has responsibilities as a father to his children. Similarly, while dwelling together must cease with the unlawful companion, he has responsibility to see that she is provided for in a godly fashion. It is wise for people in such a condition to seek counsel from men and women of God.